celebrity
A friend told me that he was upset because he read an interview on magazine, which was about his secondary schoolmate. The person he mentioned is now one of the "kings of tutorial" who earns about a million dollars every month. (note: he started the private education business few years ago helping students to prepare for public exams).
This person used to sit besides my friend when they were both in secondary school and played snookers together after school. My friend wondered why one has become so successful at earlty thirtieth while the other is just doing so-so.
Another friend of mine, who used to be in the same class as a female artist. My friend is now in an indi-band and is a "part-time" artist I would say. She said the same thing to me earlier, "she sits besides me in school… look she is so popular now…" From my point of view, my friend sings better than this artist. My friend is tall and slim and pretty. Yet she is nameless.
Fortunately I don’t have any "classmate" who has become a celebrity in any form (good and bad…) and I don’t need to say this bitterly. I would be more jealous than they did if I were them, to be honest. We like comparing. We like comparing to those who are with similar background with us. We like comparing the apparent success with others. We like hating ourselves.
Think this way. The person you compare with might not have a happy relationship as you do now. They might not have the freedom to do whatever they like on street. They have to worry about people cheating them. They might not be as healthy as you.
More importantly, if there were 40 persons in the class, perhaps 38 of them are not as good as you do now.
September 18th, 2005 at 3:30 am
I only have one friend who is quite famous in the music business now. He is not a very close friend of mine, but I am glad that he finally achieves what he aims to.
Maybe because. my friend is male, I do not feel too jealous about his success (:D)!
Rather, I have a friend, a girl, who is used to as smart as me (hehhee..) . We always got similar marks at school. And, a few years later, she has successfully entered the most famous university in the world, and then worked at one of the most famous firm in the world and now, she is happily married to a successful man. I was a bit jealous of course, but, I do feel happy for her at the same time.
When she was litte, she likes to compare a lot, and now, she is very humble and does not care how others evaluate her; she spends more time in charity works. I do not know what happened to her, but it seems to be a good thing.
I guess, this is what “confident” means, You know the “I don’t give a dame cos I believe I can do better than you, if I have the chance” attitude! Hahahaa…
September 18th, 2005 at 3:31 am
By the way, Happy Mid-autumn festival and wish you have a great time with you love one(s).
September 18th, 2005 at 6:54 am
Happy mid-autumn festival to you too! Just had dinner with my mom in Po Doi O… Well we always like comparing ourselves with the better ones, and feel bad about ourselves after the comparison. I think you are already very good la (will soon be like your friend). I envy your friend too. Not because she is good, is because she worths your good comments. =^_^=